A couple who were married for 84 years hold the record for England’s longest marriage. Maurice and Helen Kaye, who started their life together in 1934, survived numerous obstacles: World War, the death of 2 children, and limited opportunities and rampant discrimination against Jews.
No matter what obstacle they encountered, they never gave up, choosing to focus on family and community, always guided by faith. They were very active in the Bournemouth Chabad, frequently attending events, and never missing a Shabbat. In honor of their 75th wedding anniversary, they donated a Torah (commemorated in the picture above, taken in 2009).
At the exceptionally advanced age of 106, Mr. Kaye recently passed away, leaving a huge hole in the hearts of all who knew him. His incredible life should serve as an example to the rest of us!
Personally, I can’t imagine that amount of time. To put it into perspective, my own Grandparents were married in 1939. When my Grandfather passed away in 1977, they had celebrated 38 years. My Grandmother lived until 1999 and was a very devoted widow.
None of us know how many years on earth we have and each day should be considered a gift since there’s no guarantee. Rabbi Yosef Alperowitz summed it up best: “People can learn from Maurice Kaye’s example…you could be in your 70s, 80s, 90s, and even 100s, and you can still be involved.”
So often we let age hold us back, but it shouldn’t. Every person, no matter how young or old, can contribute to the Jewish community. We all have an important part to play, whether it’s teaching, listening, lending a hand, or giving a hug. Everyone deserves to be counted.
As for marriage, I doubt their record will ever be broken. Many unions today don’t even last for one year, let alone 8 decades. The older generations knew a lot more about relationships than we do. They didn’t treat marriage like it was disposable. Vows made were not meant to be broken. I truly admire this couple, on so many levels, and hope that in my own life, I can follow in their honored footsteps.
This was just amazing to read – what an inspiring couple! We all could only hope to have such a long and strong marriage 🙂
Well said. They are one-in-a-million.
84 years! We hit 33 his year and among our friends are he longest married. I dont think we will hit 84, I would have to live longer than he did as would my husband. Hubbys Grandparents made it to 68 or 69 years though!
33 years is still incredible! I’d love to hear your advice on how to have such a long and happy marriage. Very impressed.