Taking a page straight out of “Harvey Weinstein Apologist” Donna Karan’s despicable book, Kirstie Alley is defending Matt Lauer and denouncing the alleged victims of his abuse.
Given her outspoken history of how Hollywood viciously body shamed her and denied her parts as she aged and gained weight, this is even more surprising! But it gets better: In the ’80’s, she also claimed to have been sexually harassed and pressured into compromising positions.
So where is the compassion for others who’ve dealt with the same nightmare? No where to be found in this heartless Tweet: “What the hell is happening? We now live in a country where people lose their jobs when accused of something without proof or trial or in some cases w anonymous accusers? Can’t confront your accuser? This is bull. And IT HURTS THE REAL VICTIMS of abuse. AND innocent people.”
Obviously, nobody should ever be falsely accused; we can all agree on that. But I truly don’t think this is a scam or a shakedown for quick cash. As someone who literally grew up watching Matt and Katie on the Today show, this is really hard for me to accept, too. He seemed—key word here is “seemed”—like the nicest guy in the world (ring a bell, Bill Cosby?).
Over and over again, as these allegations break, multiple accounts start to go public, with very similar details in every case. Instead of asking why people stayed silent for so long, as if it’s a mystery, the terrible reactions should be clear. How many women and men—because there are many, many male victims, too!—are living in fear and silence, not only from the abuse, but the potential fallout of coming forward and confronting the abuser.
This is just not right. We need to believe victims. We need to help victims. Nobody can tell a victim what they would’ve done, or could’ve done, unless you’ve walked in those same shoes. Victims deserve sympathy and assistance—not blame, not shame, and definitely not disbelief. Shame on you, Kirstie!
Women have been losing their jobs for refusing to endure sexual harassment or provide sexual favours for endless years now. Where is her compassion for them? Where is her compassion for the women who never got hired because the boss didn’t think they were “hot” despite their having stellar qualifications? Where is her compassion for the women who tried to come forward and were silenced? Where is her compassion for all the women out there who work in accounting offices or bakeries or factories or fast food joints who STILL are enduring all of this because unlike celebs, they still don’t have a public platform? Why is her compassion reserved solely for men who are accused of abuse?
That is so well said! You make an excellent point about public platforms. I think they have an extra responsibility to use their reach to help others, not hurt.
I just typed an entire profanity laced tirade and before I hit send mypahe crashed. So to sum it up…
Men are garbage and are and always have been the biggest threat to women. She knows this. And it’s gross that even know, when all these women are FINALLY feeling empowered enough to say enough is enough- she reserves her outrage for the man who’s life is being negatively impacted, while giving no regard to the women, ALL WOMEN, who have had their lives negatively impacted, who have been victimized, by the inferior gender (men) since the dawn of time. It’s unfortunate that patriarchy is so ingrained in so many women.
There are two people you ALWAYS believe until you can’t…women and children who allege abuse. The laws of the land allow for someone to be innocent until
Proven guilty. But let’s be honest- like most sexual abusers- the law of the land won’t hold them accountable. Therefore, the court of public opinion applies
It’s revenge of the girls Kirsty. It’s our uprising. Get on board or get out of the way, because right now- you’re part of the problem.
The overwhelming majority of abusers are men, yes, but not all are garbage. We have to join together with the good men to raise awareness and fight this problem. Women alone can not fix it. I agree that the court system is completely failing victims. We need a total overhaul of the system and that starts with personal behavior and mindset. Women and children are not pieces of meat for a man to misuse and abuse! We are people who deserve every single right that men have and enjoy.