James Franco has proven you’re never too old for a Bar Mitzvah. Earlier this month, the actor celebrated his own at age 37—24 years later than usual!

While some are dismissing it as publicity stunt, I think it’s most likely a sincere gesture of faith and I can’t applaud it strongly enough. Since popular opinion is greatly influenced by Hollywood, this will definitely raise awareness about the option of adult Bar/Bat Mitzvah and may encourage others to have their own belated ceremony.

Just because most boys and girls do it at 12 and 13 doesn’t mean it’s wasted on the middle-aged (on the contrary, in all actuality!). Those of us who grew up in a Jewish household take the concept of Bar/Bat Mitzvah for granted, but there are many reasons why someone may not have had one in their youth: lack of affiliation, lack of funds, lack of interest, being the child of an Interfaith couple, etc. 

Many people seek out religion as they age. Once we develop our own ideas on spirituality, what seemed insignificant years earlier can become very relevant and the longing for a ceremony and what it represents becomes important. Knowing that Bar/Bat Mitzvah is available to you can mean a world of difference for a Jew by birth or a Jew by choice.

Just as we’re never too old to learn to read, or swim, or drive, we are never too old to find spiritual fulfillment. I’ve often said that the Jewish community is not doing enough when it comes to outreach. Unfortunately, many members are judgmental and want things to be done “as they always have been done.” That argument has gotten us nowhere and could very possibly  hurt future growth.

What we need to do is foster a sense of openness, inclusion, and personal freedom. Nobody should ever be discouraged from a Bar/Bat Mitzvah because of age! Because no matter how young or old an individual is, their special moment is a joyful event and should be celebrated by all.

Do you support Bar/Bat Mitzvah for an adult?