Did you watch Jane Velez Mitchell last night? She discussed Candace Cameron Bure’s comment that she’s a “submissive” wife.

Quite frankly, this didn’t surprise me since I know both Candace and her brother, Kurt Cameron, are fundamentalist Christians. I’m all for individual freedom and religious tolerance, so if it works for them, ok…

However, I feel very strongly that telling a wife to be submissive is the wrong message. Submission is about control; relationships surely are not! A relationship should be based on equality, friendship, and love. Neither the man, nor the woman, should try to dominate the other.

Candace is a mother to 3 children, one of whom is a daughter. Would she want her daughter to submit when she marries? I don’t have a daughter, but if I did, I certainly would not. I would encourage her to be independent and empowered—same as I’d encourage a son.

All people are created free and equal; let’s try to remember that!

Would you ever consider “submitting” to your man? (I seriously doubt any Jewish lady is saying yes, but…)